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Pretty much all moved out

Tue, 14 Aug 2007 09:41:01 GMT

Yeah, I'm doing most of my posting over here now - at my other blog. I'm getting annoyed at the ads here, and the fact that I have to pay if I don't want them. What's THAT all about?

I'll still post over here every once in a while... simply because I have such huge problems with separation! Plus I like the little blog community we've created over here, and I hate to lose it.

But come visit me over in Blogger Land!

Not gone

Wed, 01 Aug 2007 01:52:57 GMT

I' ve just been posting over here more. (Why is the color like this? How do I change it?

I don't know why I have two blogs. I don't need to have two blogs. I don't have that much going on in my life to write about to even entertain the thought of having two blogs. So, I think I'm going to post here less less....

We're leaving for Lake George tomorrow! The kids and I are going w/J, his daughter, his friend & his two daughters. Should be fun!!

I'll report back when I get back!

Another X-ism

Mon, 23 Jul 2007 09:48:31 GMT

I don't know why I'm amazed...but somehow I always am...

This weekend the kids and I stayed at J's apartment. We went to two ball games - the Yankees on Saturday and the Brooklyn Cyclones in Coney Island, Brooklyn on Sunday.

The girlfriend of a good friend of X's lives in J's building - so I bump into him nearly every time I'm there. Which is cool. We're friends & he's a really nice guy. So, Saturday evening we're going out for icecream & we bump into him in the lobby. He tells the kids: "I'm seeing your dad in a little bit! At a restaurant right down the street!"

So, J & I kind of joke that we should stop by... and Max is like "Yeah! I want to see dad!" So tell him after we get the icecream, let's call.

We come back, sit outside on J's stoop & enjoy the icecream & he calls. Then hands me the phone. X is like "Errr, so you're right there... I guess I should see the lads... it's alittle inconvenient..." I say I'll just swing by the restaurant with them - it's a block away. He pretty much says no & I hang up.

He calls back. "It's just that I'm in friends mode now, you understand? Not kids mode."

I don't answer & just hang up. If I've learned anything in these past few post-divorce years is it makes no sense to argue.

But I still just can't believe the things he says. I mean, if he had said "sure, bring them by - but just for aminute -- that I can see. You have a night out, don't want the kids... but...

But somehow X has this magic ability to turn his parenting on and off! Amazing! And I keep telling myself I shouldn't be surprised... but you know... I am. And Max? Well he must have picked up some vibe when he talked to X - because he never asked & just dropped the whole subject.

And minor league games? They Rule! The field was so small! Max was able to get his ball signed & meet the ball players... Also there is even the possibilty to catch foul balls!! So it keeps the kids more entertained too! No more majors for me!! Plus this is right in coney Island - we went on the Boardwalk, the beach, went to Nathan's for lunch.... cool, cool, cool!

As the Pigeon World Turns

Fri, 20 Jul 2007 10:53:34 GMT

Just looked out on balcony & saw two pigeons walking around on the other balcony. Not sure if one is the former spouse or not. But I SWEAR they were walking around like two prospective buyers! Looking at this corner, that corner... Hmmmm, can we fit the sectional in over there? Looks like this part here needs a bit of work.

I'll keep you posted if/when my new neighbors move in!

(Crazy, crazy stuff!)

Onwards, ho!

Fri, 20 Jul 2007 09:32:22 GMT

And I don't mean "ho" like the Imus way - so let's not go there!

My left eye is red. I cam into work Wednesday & my co worker said "What's up with your eye?" I looked. It was red. I went to the Dr yesterday & she said it wasn't pinkeye (no discharge. Sorry. Gross word: "discharge!") but that maybe it was too soon. She gave me the names/numbers of some eye doctors -- but said to use some visine & wait 'til Wednesday, at least, before I go.

I'm thinkin' it might be from crying. Did a lot of it last week. Wrote about it over there. The other one. As I start to wean myself from this one... Nothing serious. Don't worry.

The widowed pigeon is still on the other balcony. I don't know what they do if/when a mate dies. Do they move on? Die? I tell you - the pigeon poop I hate... having the pigeons here, though, has been fascinating.

We are ALL going to J's house for the weekend. I am meeting kids in NYC after work, we will all go up to meet J (and possibly R - if she doesn't have to work) at the synagogue we like: B'nai Jeshurun. Max is a bit put off because we're going to services -- but I told him he's never seen anything like this! People dance in the aisles! There is an energy and spirituality there that just amazes! People come from all over the world to attend services there. It's an amazing place.

Then we're meeting a friend & a group of her friends for dinner for her birthday -- although I'm a bit tentative about that... might be too much for the kids & not sure I want to inflict them on her party...

Then - tomorrow Yankees Game.

Then - Sunday Coney Island and a Brooklyn Cyclones game.

We'll deal with Monday when it comes.

Have a good one, guys!

Super Sitter!

Mon, 16 Jul 2007 21:43:09 GMT

My wonderful babysittter got the pigeon! AND she cleaned up the balcony!!

I hesitate, though, to tell you how she got it.... she Beaned it with a Baseball!!!! She said she couldn't get it with a sheet, and that it seemed tired/slow so she got a ball &....

I have real mixed feelings about this. I mean, I hated having the pigeon there, I hate the mess... but this pigeon was part of a couple. They've been a couple since I've lived here - so that's about 6 years... just about as long as I was married! So there's one still here. I don't know if it's the male or female. And it's waiting for it's spouse to come back... and that so sucks.

But - how psyched am I that it's clean! And the pigeon's gone!!!

Pigeon Problems

Mon, 16 Jul 2007 09:21:54 GMT

I was at J's from Wednesday on - with the kids being with X at Lake George. (And yes, they came back all happy, full of smiles, with a Lake George mug for me "Mom, do you love that mug more than ANY of the other mugs you have? Will you use it every day?!") and noticed ------

A pigeon

Trapped on my balcony.

I think I mentioned that I have this netting all around the balcony, but my neighbors do not. They have the pigeon couple (I should name them, really.) living on their balcony now (they used to live on mine) and the little pigeon crap always manages to find its' way over to my side.... and now! A pigeon did, too!! Hooray! (Sarcasm. But you already knew that.)

All kidding aside, it's freaking me out. I'm not really sure how it got there, if it did it came in through a little, little hole & I know I will not be able to get it to find its way back through it. So, it's crapping on all my new furniture, and well - it's probably also starving to death. (I don't like pigeons, but quick and painless deaths are the much better way to go...)

I called up a friend who is an animal expert & she suggested going out there w/a big sheet & throwing it over the pigeon.

So, I'm going to wait for my babysitter - who No Joke can do anything (she picked up one of those GIANT WATER BUGS!!!! PICKED IT UP, I TELL YOU!!! WITH HER BARE HANDS!!!) and tell her I"ll pay her extra if she can get it.

Otherwise I'm going to have to wait 'til J can get here (tomorrow evening) and have him help me do it. But I don't want to wait that long....

And yeah. Still got the mouse.

I thought this was the City! If I wanted animals I'd live in the Country!!!!

So.... Let's see...

Tue, 10 Jul 2007 09:27:52 GMT

Nothing so new to report.... so I guess that's why I haven't been blogging that much. I think I only really do it if there's something good or bad - what's the sense of writing on regular ole' days? Well. for my use of the blog, I guess -which is sort of a venting tool.... Also, I think I'm writing more over at the other blog. Might just go over to that one & leave this one. Don't be sad! It's nothing personal, I promise!! (Didja notice how many comments I got over there! I'm entering the big leagues now, I tell you! )

Got Nathan a new bike. He had been riding Max's around the apartment & he's totally outgrown his trike. I have to take the training wheels off Max's and raise the seat. I had been thinking that I might just give Nathan Max's bike -- but then realized that it really wasn't fair to the poor kid! Always getting the hand me downs! So, new bike it was. He was very happy. My mom asked if I was going to split the cost of it with X. It's funny how it's difficult for them to grasp that we are separate... But, cool thing about buying the bike with my father there? Yup. He chipped in. (Ok, so I'm a little bit wily....)

And speaking about separate - DIVORCE IS FINAL. Yep. Got some court documents in the mail over the weekend & wasn't sure if they meant what I thought they meant. Asked the mediator & she confirmed. I'm now officially single. Kind of bitter sweet, I guess...

We had a nice little July 4th vacation. Went out to my parents on Long Island on the 3rd & came back here on the 8th. Pretty much just hung out and relaxed. Played in the yard. My dad took us to Old Bethpage Village Restoration which was actually more fun than I thought it would be. It's like Colonial Williamsburg... showing how life is like in the 1800's... Nathan was a bit bored, but Max liked it - so that was good. Really hot though & (understandably) not much air conditioning.....

The kids are going over to X's tonight until Sunday. They will be gong to Lake George. You know, I had been fine with them going to see him until 1) that time with Nathan's sore throat & X couldn't/wouldn't do anything - and when X told me that he feels that children should fear their parents.. Now I feel kind of uncomfortable when I send them to his place. They always sound fine when I talk to them there, and always come back happy - so I have no reason except for my own feelings/knowledge about X. But still. That combined with just plain missing them.... well - it's gonna be a long week.

!!!!

Tue, 03 Jul 2007 17:44:56 GMT

Five Pounds!

Next Week

Tue, 03 Jul 2007 02:02:22 GMT

I know, this week isn't even finished yet & I'm already worrying about next. I know it. It's my issue. I have a tough time staying in the here & now... always thinking about what's up ahead....

And - what's up ahead is that X and Girlfriend are taking the kids to Lake George for five days. Five Days. FIVE DAYS!!!! It's going to be tough. I think the most we've been apart is four nights - five days. He will be picking them up Tuesday night, and bringing them back Sunday.

Ugh.

And what makes it worse is what I wrote about just earlier - I really just don't want X with them any more than he needs to be.

Yes, yes, I know - he's their father... but...

And, let me just add that J and I had decided that we would all go to ...... guess! Guess where we decided to go in August? With all of our kids? Dontcha know it was LAKE GEORGE!! First the scooters, now this!!!

J actually got a little upset. Saying that X would always try to one up us... and honestly I woudn't even give him that much credit. I think he just couldn't think of any other present to get, or any other place to go...

And they're right by the lake. Like walking out of the cabin into the water close. X is very careful. He's a jerk of a husband/father ... but he is careful. But it's doubtful I'm going to sleep very much.

Next week.